Wednesday, June 10, 2009

PMS makes you do some effed up stuff...

So... I have something embarrassing to admit. I totally freaked out and really shouldn't have. I do this sometimes...



Here's the story. I met a guy on line a couple years ago on ldssingles.com. His name is Troy. We emailed a few times, and then all of a sudden he just stopped. We met again a little over a week ago on another web site called ldsmingle.com. I think I might have emailed him first - that's what he says, but I only remember him sending me a long email asking me questions like what my calling was in my ward, if I had a job... He also asked me if I had a face book account, I told him yes. He requested me to be his friend. At this point I knew he wasn't going to be interested. He seems really straight laced and my humor was not going to be something he would be attracted to. And I wasn't attracted to him.


I went to go check out his page Monday night, and he had already deleted me. I thought it was rude... so I emailed him. Before you read our correspondence, please remember I blame all of this on mother nature and her little friend PMS.


Here it goes... the sublet title is WOW.


ME:


So, you deleted me already. That sure was fast. I figured you wouldn't be interested and that's ok. But it is kind of rude to ask to be friends to "check someone out" and then be self righteous enough to delete them within a week. In the future when trying to "get to know" women don't be so slimy about it.


I let you into my private world, you read my blog, you got all of my information, and then totally judged me. I'm glad that you know so much about the bible, and you honor your priesthood, and that you think you're such a great dad. But you really are judgmental. Thanks for deleting me and letting me see who the real you is. You may not think I'm good enough to even sit in on your friends list, but I like who I am. I'm a real person. You could have at least been mature enough about it and emailed me to let me know you are not interested.


I'm so sick of men who pretend to be so mature, who don't play games. This was a game to you. Good luck in your quest to find the woman that you think deserves you. For the record, I wasn't interested either. I know this email makes me look crazy, but I'm tired of men like you who are too afraid to speak the truth, and who hide behind the delete button.


HIM:


Woah. Calm down. You don't know anything about me, and you don't know what is going on in my life right now. You jumped to conclutions way to fast. I am getting to know someone, and she asked me as a personal favor to delete any other single women from my profile. I know it is no fun out there as a single person, but you made assumptions that arent' true. - I do wish you the best. Maybe you should use some of that energy positively, rather than negatively. It goes a lot futher that way.


ME:


Whatever. I'm free to have my own opinion of you based on what I've experienced. You also know nothing about me, so spare me the lecture on being positive. I'm sure that you have your own negative opinion of me. Your free to do so. There Is no need to reply to this email. I really don't care what you have to say. This is the second time you have flaked out on me. The last time was a couple years ago. We emailed a few times and then you just stopped. I thought I would give you a second chance, and you flaked again. Sorry, you made me mad and I'm tired of turning the other cheek. This time I was going to say something. Good luck with your relationship, out of respect for your new friend leave me alone.


HIM:


I remember that communication. You contacted me this time, and then you react this way when I don't get back to you? You have some serious anger issues. I have never encountered this kind of behavior as a result of an LDS site. - You should get some help with those issues so you can find a healthy relationship.


ME:

I don't remember if I send something first this time, but you sent me a lengthy email asking a ton of questions which I answered, you are the one who requested me as a friend.


I think it is funny that when a woman calls someone under the rug for rude behavior they get labeled angry or worse.


What you think of me will not affect how I sleep at night. I can safely assume that you too have issues, but since I'm not a doctor I won't diagnose you with any conditions as you did me.


I thought you deleted me because you had a special request from a girl to delete all of the single woman from your account. Let me give you some advise, that doesn't sound healthy to me. If a woman is going to get insecure this early in the relationship then you have more problems than whether or not I don't like you.


I'm sorry if you have never had problems "like this on an LDS site", I'm sure I'm not the first person you have flaked out on, I'm the first to say something about it.


Honestly, I don't care that you deleted me. It's the way that you did it. The least you can do was give me the courtesy to let me know. I really don't feel that I need to justify myself to you anymore. I have my opinion of you, and you of me. Let's just leave it at that. I'm positive that our paths will never cross again.



That was pretty funny.



I stand behind what I said, I just wish I wouldn't have said it. But it is true, I'm sick of men who are flaky. We are all in our mid to late 30's, have the decency to address the situation, say what you mean and don't just ignore people.



But.... the PMS tirade doesn't stop there. I met another guy named Carl. I went on a date with him Saturday night. I liked him and really would have like to see him again. At the end of the date we hugged and he said "I'll call you tomorrow". I'm a very literal person, and I hate it when men say that with no real intentions of doing so. Just say "it was nice meeting you". There are no promises in that statement. I think the other problem I have with it is when I was dating my ex-husband (and I was pregnant with his child) he would say "lets do something Wednesday night". So I would clear my schedule, but he wouldn't call me again until Friday.



Well, needless to say Carl didn't call Sunday... or Monday. So I sent him this:



I realize that after meeting me you are no longer interested, and that's ok. But what I don't understand is why after the date you said "I'll call you tomorrow" when you really had no intentions of doing it. I wanted to go out with you again, but realize you just really aren't that into me. I believe in being honest and not playing games, so I'm going to end it before it goes any farther. You really are a great guy, and I hope you find what you're looking for.




That one sounded pathetic. But, he didn't respond so I must have been correct. Or he just thought I was crazy... probably a little of both. haha.



PMS, just go away... don't come back another day.

3 comments:

Jessie said...

Awww Laurie! This makes me miss you even more! Oh how you crack me up!

Brenda Dickerson said...

I love it! Don't stop being you and don't start taking the crap men dish out!

Melissa said...

You crack me up. Good for you for saying it like it is.